The Sunday just gone marked Mothers Day in Australia. So what else should I let inspire me in writing for this than the woman that inspires me every single day!
Now I know that everyone thinks that their own mum is the best one, and I say we are all allowed to have that bias, and why not. In doing this, we spend time discussing what makes our own so cool and trying to ‘out mum’ each other. This is something I am good with. Mums are good people.
Anyway, without further waffling, here are some of the reasons I think my Mum rocks, and some lessons I have learnt from her.
- She is the most selfless person I know. I have never known anyone to give up so much of their own time to help and support others. At primary school, she was one of the known mums, you all know what I mean. She came on all the school trips, came in to listen to readers, helped out on special days at the school, helped run parent-led workshops in school (she taught my whole year 6 year group to sew a bag on a sewing machine). In secondary school she did everything she could to support my school and my brothers school, she was on every parent rota going. She spent her evenings driving my sister, brother and myself to soccer/football/netball/swimming/music/jobs/friends places, wherever we wanted to go. She cares for people who are sick, makes sure they have the medicine and food they need, will take them to and from hospital and specialist appointments. She has been known to cancel her own social things and other things that are important to her in order to be able to do this. I hope I have fully inherited this trait.
- She is one of my best friends. I lived at home till I was 24 to help me save before moving overseas and we spent a lot of time chatting as we hung out the washing, cleaned the dishes or over a cup of tea. We still chat all the time, and a lot of that is about nothing in particular, just stuff. We air problems, exchange advise, complain about our first world problems, laugh at our own stupidity. There is nothing like putting the worlds wrongs to right with the person who has literally known me the longest.
- I am noticing I am having more and more moments where I think, ‘I am just like my mother’ and I think it’s a great thing. Sometimes I say something that she always said/says, or react to something, have a certain expression or mannerism that is just her.
- She has been through so much and have used each of those moments, both good and bad, to become the incredible, strong, loving person that she is. I am only just starting to find these things out, and I hope that it never stops. Sometimes it is through a conversation on the phone, or out at dinner when I am home so and out with my folks and their friends, or talking to other family members. All these little bits of stories come together and I am even more in awe of her than I was before.
- She always has time for her friends. People are always dropping in for a cup of tea and a chat. Not everyone creates a home where people feel they are welcome to do that, but she has. Even my siblings and I would have friends just turning up, knowing that they were always welcome.
- She is always willing to try new things. For as long as I can remember she will go to new exercise classes, short courses to learn a new skill, participate in study groups. She sets that time aside and will dedicate her efforts into doing the best she possibly can in that skill/class/study. It has always amazed me how she fits it all in!
Things she has taught me:
- To always be myself, embrace my uniqueness and to not let anyone make me feel less.
- How to listen. Sometimes people just need a chat in order to not feel as lonely, or to work out a solution. Time is the most valuable thing that you can give to anyone. I hope I never forget this lesson and hope that I only get better at it.
- To laugh at myself. Not everything works out how you plan it too, may as well find the funny side and make the best of it.
- Not to impose my thoughts and opinions on others. She and Dad always let us develop our own views and opinions, about people, politics, music. It wasn’t until we were all that bit older and had our own ideas about things that we started to truly find out theirs.
- That strength doesn’t solely come from the self, but from the people around us and who we open up to. That in order to be strong, I need a stable and supportive network around me.
- To accept my faults, and to embrace them. I am stronger being able to accept my shortcomings.
- It is ok to get upset or angry about a situation, but it is equally important to then make sure that a solution is found or a plan is made to make sure that it does not happen again.
- That we never stop learning, and that I should always seek opportunities to learn.
Mum, I am so proud that you are mine. You are an incredible woman and if I retain even half of the lessons you have taught me, and take on half of the things I admire about you, I know that I am going to continue to grow into a strong, successful, empathetic and reliable woman. You are a phenomenal role model.